I know you see and hear a version of this everywhere. But yet, you are still making yourself the last person on your list, if you even remember to put yourself on the list. And, I get it! You feel good when everyone has their needs meet. You are cementing your place in heaven and creating good karma. Stellar for you! But while you are running around taking care of everyone else, who is in charge of taking care of you?
There are people in your life who are satisfied with the way their life is and are not interested in coming out of their comfort zone. And that is absolutely fine, for them. But that does not mean you have to suck it up and not strive for something more if you want it. You don’t have to accept what you have. Yes, be grateful for what you have but don’t settle when you know you want more. You deserve it. So come up with a plan and put it to action. This isn’t going to happen all by itself.
When you are worrying about what you don’t have, and complaining, I am going to guess it doesn’t make you feel empowered. So instead, how about you just be thankful for what you have. Don’t compare yourself to anyone else and be thankful you are better than them or their situation.
Get out a sheet of paper (or open a Google Doc), and write down and acknowledge how far you have come, mentally, physically, emotionally. Have you ever taken five minutes to really take an inventory of your life?
It may not get you what you’re worrying about but at least you’ll see that if you could grow so much to get to this point, there is no reason you can’t get what you want.
When someone pays you a compliment, instead of throwing it back in their face, say, “Thank you!” And then stop talking. No one wants to hear how you feel fat today, or it’s something that you’ve had for years, etc. It’s okay to accept the compliment someone is giving you. You deserve it.
That is all.
One of the ways you’re getting tripped up when you’re going for your goals is to listen to people who do not support your dreams. It’s not because they are bad people or trying to sabotage you. They are taking your dream and interpreting it from their frame of reference.
And you know what that framework looks like?
They look at your situation as if it were them. And since they couldn’t picture having success with it, then that means you can’t. And they want to protect you from possible, inevitable failure. They mean well, so don’t get upset. Just smile, nod and say, “Watch me!”