Why did you start your business?
I hate to admit it but a few years ago my life was anything but stellar. Most of the time, I put on the facade that everything was fantabulous but it really wasn’t. I was a chronic people pleaser, and when my friends or family asked for my help, I always gave it, even when it was an inconvenience to me. I just didn’t want anyone to be upset or disappointed with me or think they couldn’t rely on me. This insecurity led to me being silent when I should have spoken up for myself, not getting what was important to me done, and getting suspended from an organization because I didn’t listen to my intuition. (You ever ignore that inner voice telling you not to do something? Sucks when it was right, doesn’t it?)
I also never took pride in my accomplishments. I remember when I published my book and everyone I told being so excited, except me. I felt nothing, like it was no big deal. Sure, I acted like I was excited because that’s how you are supposed to behave, but it was just another thing to check off of my to-do list.
I knew this wasn’t right or how I wanted my life to be. I wasn’t happy. Something was missing.
That’s when I started exploring personal development and reading books such as Excuse Me, Your Life is Waiting?, Ask And It Is Given, The Power of Intention, & many others and attending seminars to learn what I didn’t know. Slowly, I started to understand that it was up to me to change my life. What an empowering thought? This led me to embark on my coaching certification journey that truly transformed my entire life. For the first time, I started making myself and my dreams a priority, taking pride in my accomplishments, and learned to love and accept myself, faults and all. So, when you see me now I am genuinely happy.
Originally, I signed up for the program to learn how to help others because I thought I had learned what I needed to know about getting to happy for myself. Surprisingly, what I ended up learning was how to finally love myself. And up until that point I hadn’t even realized I didn’t.
I know many other women struggle to say no, are chronic people pleasers, are not living a fulfilling life, and holding on to some shame or guilt from the past. I say it’s time to end that cycle. And because I’ve experienced and truly believe in the power of coaching to change lives, I’ve made it my personal mission to use what I’ve learned to empower other women to stop putting themselves last, learn to love the stellar women they are, and create and live the stellar life they are meant to live.
Who are your clients?
Glad you asked! My clients are just like you, highly motivated women who struggle to say no, are chronic people pleasers and constantly making themselves the last person on their list. And they are finally ready to start putting themselves on the top of their to-do list.
How are you different from other “life coaches”?
Well, I simply went to the best coach training school in the world, the Institute for Professional Excellence in Coaching (iPEC) . Okay, I’m a bit biased. My training has taught me that before we can make any changes on the outside, we have to make them on the inside. I’m sure you read books, read articles and seen TV specials telling you how to make time for yourself. You’ve nodded, maybe even took notes but you still haven’t made any changes. That’s because it’s not about the actual action. You need to get to the root of the issue. The Core Energy Coaching Process I’ve learned, focuses on shifting your beliefs so you make long lasting change, not just get a temporary high.
What type of personality do you work best with and what is expected of me?
I am constantly looking for the silver, no–platinum lining and always believe there is a way to get anything you want when you focus, put your energy in and take action. And those are the people I work with best, motivated women who are ready and willing to change their lives and are not afraid to put the work in (or they are afraid but they are brave enough to do it anyway).
You will be expected to do the work. We will create assignments together but when you commit to doing something I will expect it to be completed the next time we meet. Change doesn’t happen overnight, it takes constant action.
What type of person do you NOT work with?
I don’t work with people who are constant procrastinators, make excuses and complain all the time. It’s very annoying and frustrating. When we work together, I am totally invested in your success and happiness and if you are not as driven as I am or you’re not really ready to make changes, then please don’t call me. It’ll be a waste of both our time.
What types of coaching programs do you offer?
I have a seven-step coaching program called: Stop Being a People Pleaser: How to Finally Make You a Priority. We women seem to suffer from the Superwoman Complex and as a symptom of this disease we take care of everyone first and ourselves last or not at all. This can lead to a feeling of resentment and wondering when it will be your turn. In this program, you’ll stop waiting for someone to give you permission and start creating the life you want now. The program includes
This is Your Life
You’ll take a Superwoman Complex Assessment to get a clear picture of what’s exactly getting in your way so you can really understand your unique self-sabotage pattern, how and why your people pleasing habit is getting in the way of you being truly happy, and what you can do about it. You’ll also get a list of ways you can start new, positive habits to improve your confidence and motivation, put a muzzle on your inner critic, and stop attracting needy, self-absorbed, controlling, annoying people.
Stop Believing Everything You Think
What we allow to run around in our minds is horrible. Just imagine for a second that every negative thought you had about yourself you went and voiced to another person. You’d be completely embarrassed.
After we discover how your current beliefs have created your life. It’s time to address them, reframe them and delete them so you stop self sabotaging yourself and begin to retrain your mind to support you, not harm you.
Get the F Out
Many times we are holding out on forgiving someone because we think we are punishing them. Or we don’t forgive ourselves and hold on to that guilt and shame that continuously punishes and reminds us we are not worthy and we don’t deserve to be happy because of the past. It’s time to let go and forgive.
Celebrate Your Greatness
Learn to celebrate, not hide your gifts. It’s time to take pride in what you know how to do better than anyone else. You are doing no one any favors by downplaying your amazing talents. Confidence is a stellar thing!
What’s Important to You?
We all have a set of values we live by that govern our lives. Getting clear on your core values will help you understand yourself in a much deeper level. When you know which values matter most to you, you’ll make better decisions for your life and see where you should and shouldn’t be spending your valuable time and energy.
The Art of No
For some women, even the thought of saying no to someone, especially to their loved ones, stresses them out. We’ll talk about how we can reframe your belief about the word so you can say no and not feel anxious or guilty about it. (It’s really all about saying yes to you.)
Living the Stellar Life
There are five important areas in your life: you (personal, spiritual), career, money, health (emotional, physical) and relationships. And when all those points are luminously brilliant you are on track to living a stellar life.This is your life so take charge of it by deciding how you want each area to shine.
These are the steps to get you to take control and live a more fulfilling life. During our work together you’ll get insights into where your life is, how your mind has been deceiving you so you’ll play it safe and stay small. We’ll work together to eliminate those mindhoarding thoughts so you can finally look in the mirror and see the stellar, beautiful, talented, strong, confident woman you really are. Are you ready for that?
Where are you located and do you only work with local clients?
My office is located in Norwalk, Connecticut, but I mostly work with my clients by phone or Skype.
Do you accept credit cards?
Heck yeah! In fact, I only accept credit cards. You can either pay on a monthly basis or pay for the whole program at once. It’s totally up to you.
Um, this is all nice and stuff but I’m not ready to commit yet. How can I sample your work without paying anything?
I totally understand, if this is the first time you’re visiting. If you are still a bit unsure, you can start by signing up for my Stellar Moments Newsletter and Joyful Mondays Podcast. Each week, I deliever a dose of motivation, inspiration and encouragement into your inbox or your iTunes account. It’s free to sign up.
Hey, I’m ready to start making myself a priority. How do we get started?
Congratulations on making this decision. You are ready to stop putting everyone else’s needs before your own. You’re probably excited and a bit nervous at this decision. But you know that if you don’t do anything, nothing will change.
So, let’s not waste any time. The rest of your life is waiting.
Schedule a Get Acquainted Session so that I can learn more about you, answer any questions you have, and see how I can help you stop being a chronic people pleaser.
I can’t wait to meet you in person or on the phone!