When you finally decide to ask for you want and are told no, don’t stop there. You have three options:
1.) Ask why is it no so you can get to yes
2.) Reassess and adjust your approach
3.) Ask someone else, then someone else, then someone else, until you get to a yes
So many times we ask once and then accept the answer we don’t want to hear. Then we don’t ask again. Or, we’ll tell someone once and then expect them to remember so we don’t ask again and expect the other person to keep us top of mind, but that is not a good strategy. I’m sure you’ve noticed, people forget. And that’s because we are all the center of our own universe, concerned with our needs first. It’s nothing personal against you. It’s all about them.
So keep reminding them, keep asking, be relentless.