When you judge, you experience less

JudgingYou’ve been in a relationship and for whatever reason it didn’t work out. They cheated on you, betrayed you, or you realized they were who they were going to be and they were not going to change because you wanted them to. So now you are swearing off relationships with a certain type of person because of that ill-fated relationship.

Just to be clear, I’m not specifically referring to romantic relationships. I’ve heard people say they don’t date, associate or affiliate themselves with a certain gender, zodiac sign, political party, religion, etc. And I get that you are upset with the person who did you wrong but I don’t believe it’s fair to assign their faults with an entire group. Oh, and let’s not forget those groups of people you judge because of what you’ve heard or been taught, not what you’ve experienced first hand.

So during this month of love, I’m encouraging you to release some of those judgments, stop protecting yourself from imaginary villains, expand your knowledge and learn about different cultures first hand instead of listening to others opinions.  Because I am sure, no matter your race, religion, sexual orientation, etc. there are stereotypes you are working against all day long that are absolutely not true for you.

By holding on to your judgments you’re possibly keeping yourself from meeting a life long friend or partner. You just never know.

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