The battle to stop myself from gossiping about me

mindhoardingIt’s getting close to the end of the month and I’m wondering how are you holding up on your resolutions? Let’s not pretend you didn’t set them, even if you used another label such as intention or goal, etc.

One of my resolutions is to never say or think another negative thought about myself to myself, or anyone else. I already think very highly of myself but I want to totally eliminate ALL negative thoughts which include…

I can’t do that.
I’m not good at this
I never get it right.
It always ends up this way.
I don’t have enough.
It is what it is.
[Fill in your favorite here]

Generally when I utter or think these statements it’s coming from a negative and limiting place. And this year, I’ve decided I’m not longer putting up with this behavior from myself.

And I’m not just going by words, they can be an indicator but what I’m really using to determine if it’s a negative thought or word is by how I feel. If it doesn’t feel good when I say it or think it then I’m not thinking or saying it anymore.

When I’m in a good mood and things are going smoothly, it’s easy to say and think great things about me. But the moment someone points out one of my flaws. That’s when the mindhoarding and gathering evidence of other times I’ve messed up start building and it’s a fight to the death to make myself change the channel in my mind so I am not allowing my thoughts to run wild, unchecked and make myself feel less than.

I wish I could tell you that it’s gotten so much easier and after a few short weeks I am cured and have the magic pill or spell to instantly silence the negative voices, but I don’t. It is taking a lot of work and daily actions. I am testing out everything I come across to help me. I’m meditating, praying, creating vision boards (actually I created a vision book),  journaling, tapping and the other day I thought of trying hypnosis (haven’t done it but it’s on my list). I might even finally crack open A Course in Miracles, which I bought last year and have yet to read.

I know I usually have doses of wisdom to share with you but today I wanted to let you know that I struggle sometimes as well.
We all do. The important thing is that we don’t give up.

You are not a failure if you are not able to immediately eliminate an old habit or person no longer serving you or are unable to create a healthier behavior the minute you make the decision. You’ve cultivated this behavior for years, it’s on autopilot so expect it to take focused time and effort to retrain your brain.

Realize you’re human, just like the rest of us, and you’ll slip up. And when you do, dust off your shoulders and get back in the game.
That’s what I’m doing. Will you join me?

What old thought patterns are you working on changing?

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  • Aaliyah Miller

    Great advice. I needed to read this:)