In June, I signed up with my nutritionist Lisa Corrado. We had worked together six years ago and I was in another rutand wanted to lose some more weight. My weight when we started was 203 and the goal I set was to lose 13 pounds. In the first few weeks of us working together, I lost seven pounds and got to 196.
Our recent meeting, I was still at 197. And Lisa nicely pointed out to me that I should be lower than that, which is totally true. In three months I couldn’t lose 13 pounds? I’ve fluctuated between 194 and 197 between late June and until now.
I’d lying to you if I didn’t share that I was totally annoyed with myself, still kinda am. In my head I’m thinking, “What the freak is my problem? When I set goals, I accomplish them. Or so I thought. I’m a coach I should be able to do this no problem! Maybe I should just quit and stay where I am.” And the list continues.
Looking back, I can see where I went wrong. I’ve been working out a bit more and after I eat all my snacks and meals, I would still be hungry. So, I used that as an excuse to eat whatever I wanted because I was still hungry so those calories didn’t really count.
Ugh! Just six measly pounds away from my goal. So close and yet I seem to be making sure I don’t get there. That was until I had the talk with Lisa and she asked me to go back to my reason for the goal I set. And there are two:
1.) I think I was hoping the fat in areas I would like it not be, would reveal all this muscle that I have yet to build.
2.) I want to get another tattoo on my back that I’m going to want to show off, without back fat.
So, after I re-evaluated my goals, I’ve been able to regain control of my eating and realized that I am actually happy with my shape as it is and I just want to tone it up.
What about you?
I can’t be the only one who is working on a goal and is finding bumps along the way. So are you also in the process of chiseling out the body you want out of the body you have? Are you working to get a promotion? Are you working on finishing your first book? Whatever you are working, I want you to think about that project/goal that seems to be eluding you or you regularly feel you start to make progress then fall two steps?
Your stellar assignment
Be honest with yourself, what are you doing to prevent yourself from achieving it? (You have to own your part in it.) We could go into why you do what you do but sometimes that is just a freaking waste of time. It is amazing, at least to me, that once you expose the real problem/issue/behavior, you are more able to nip it in the bud. After you have uncover your stellar sabotage technique, re-evaluate your goal:
Has it changed? (That’s perfectly fine, you may find that goal doesn’t fit you anymore.)
Did you really want to create that goal? (Or did someone else talk you into it.)
Depending on your answers you may need to update your goal, drop it or just recommit to it.