Maria Celeste Arraras
How many times have you started a new venture or attempted to change something in your life and come across an obstacle?
When that happens, what do you usually do? Do you just quit and say, “Oh, I guess it wasn’t meant to be,” or create all the excuses of why it could never happen and how it was a pipe dream anyway, or do you say to yourself it was a sign from some divine source telling you that this isn’t for you? I find with my clients, many of them try to stop going after their goal when they hit that first obstacle.
You’ve done it, possibly recently. And you are not alone, I’ve been there too! But when those obstacles appear, you’ve got to decide if it’s worth pushing past the ‘no’. When you decide it is. Then get to work.
“A failure is not a denial, it’s just a delay” -Joel Osteen
Just because something is not going the way you planned doesn’t mean it’s not going to happen for you. You just have to find another way.
I am a stubborn control freak and I like, more demand, that things go the way I’ve planned. And when they don’t I get upset. I like order, my order. When those setbacks happen, I have to sit back and think of another way to get what I want because I want it and I just don’t understand the word ‘no.’ (Unless, I happen to be the one saying it.) And, I’m not going to stop until I get it. That’s the way I want you to be: razor, laser, sharp focused on getting whatever it is you want. Believe me, if you want it bad enough, you will create a way out of no way. So, if you’ve tried one approach and it didn’t pan out, take another route.
“Stay committed to your decisions but stay flexible in your approach.” –Tony Robbins
Your weekly stellar assignment
My challenge to you is for you to go back and look at any goals you may have given up on. (You did write them down, right?)
Are there any goals you still would like to reach the light of day?
Revisit what got in the way and ask yourself:
- How else can I accomplish this goal? (Write down all your ideas, no matter how outrageous. Don’t restrict yourself. You can go back later and choose the ones that will work.)
- Who can help me get this? (Get someone you trust who will support your ideas.)
- What resources do I need? (You may not have or know everything yet to reach that goal. So find out what you need to know.)
Get those mind juices flowing and get to work on what you want. I’d hate for you to keep depriving the world and yourself of your unique talents. It’s really selfish of you.